Are you Adopted ? Well then Listen up.... Updated 27th August

I hope you are grateful.......I hope that if you blog that you do not blog about anything other than being grateful for being adopted

In fact I hope that you get down on your hands and knees and KISS your Adoptive Parents feet..

It seems that this post

Deborra Lee Furness's Adoption Campaign

Causes quite a upset even some months later. I continually receive nasty little anonymous comments on this particular blog post too which I don't bother publishing as a comment because they are anonymous, but every now and then a doozy anon comes along that I need to dedicate a entire post to, such is the case here..
>The first comment I received was

"I feel so sorry for you. I hope you find more gratitude for the good life you have had in years to come. Adoption isn't your real issue, attitude plays a big part too."

The second comment received from the same person in NSW, Australia somewhere not too far from the location Baulkham Hills using Telstra as their provider, XP as their Operating System and Firefox as their browser,  with the IP address of 124................... ooops better not expose that hey....You see thats the thing ANONYMOUS Posters .........you are not so bloody anonymous.....

"I feel so sorry for you. Adoption isn't your real issue. Gratitude is. Your parents (adoptive) gave you a good life and love and you throw it away like it didn't matter. Biology doesn't make a real family work. Love and respect do. I hope you find it one day Jane. I truly do."

Would someone please tell me how this person can possibly know this ? wouldn't one think that throwing away onces life would be not doing anything with it? ending up on the streets on drugs ? prostitution? gambling? being into crime ? wouldn't that constitute "throwing it away" But here I am in a beautiful home with a beautiful family of MY own that I brought into this world, that I made, gave life to and NURTURED along the way with love and respect...so tell me how does being a successful wife and mother and business woman constitute "throwing it all away" ?

Because I write about the atrocities in the adoption world ? this makes me ungrateful? this makes me "throwing it away"

Because I speak of the wrongs that are happening with adoption today , and yesterday this makes me ungrateful ?

HA what a  freaking JOKE. This person who spent all of 15 minutes or so on my blog reading 5 or 6 pages ...HA they think they have the right to comment on me ? HA what a JOKE 

READ My  blog from back to front then come back....better yet  post  as a real person or  send me a  email.

You have no fucking clue. Here go ahead and read THIS POST about my adoptive Mother
and then come back and say that to me you imbecile. 


GET ALL THE FACTS Before you open your Goddamn Mouth.


 UPDATED 27th August 08 - wednesday 11.38 am WST (Aust)




But Wait ! There is More - I cant actually believe it ! but there is and seriously you would think that someone who has now spent at least an hour on your blog, with the blog name of Adopted JANE And the sign off on many posts of JANE would get that your name is oh wait lets see JANE


FFS


So now we have the fantastic comment of :

Sara,

It takes a giving person to be a parent. Biological or other wise. You mum and dad may not have been perfect. But heck I was raised by my biological parents and they still didn't get it all right.

I hope you chose to let go of this hate and move on in life. I have friends who are adopted...and they LOVE their adoptive parents, and respect their birth parents for making a choice to give them a better life. They are NOT damaged people. I would say happy, good attitudes...

I know others that have recently adopted a child locally, have contact with the birth mother and exchange of information twice a year. Adoption has changed a great deal over the years. (Furness is mainly about international, not local Australia.) Maybe you should look into what happens NOW rather than 40 years ago.

Let it go, get on with your life and start looking at the gift your adoptive parents and birth mother gave you, you said they loved you, gave you a good life... Don't force yourself onto your birth mother. Any Relationship take time to develop, so do it one bit at time.

Give me the person who lost their leg in a car accident... forgave the person who caused it, didn't become bitter and 'damaged'...and now they are competing in the Para Olymics...

So Now my name is *Sara* ...and again with the crap about loving adoptive parents...Read my blog and then talk to me...

You dont even know what you are talking about.....Go bother someone elses blog...

And my little pic at the beginning of this post ... is a fact ... I am grateful...but I dont believe that people need to associate adoption and grateful in the same sentence. Being adopted is not something you should *have to be* grateful about. Being adopted is not a GIFT.
In regards to being Grateful being an adopted child is the same as being a child born to a parent, there should be no more or no less about being grateful that the other.

I should be as grateful to my adoptive parents as my own flesh and blood child should be grateful to me.

It angers me when I read of people saying to an adoptee "you should be grateful you were adopted"

WHY ? why should we ? Because we might have been aborted ? because we might have languished in foster care ? yes I am happy that those things didnt happen to me, but no one has the right to tell me that I should be GRATEFUL for being adopted.

Perhaps the adoptive parents should be GRATEFUL ? that they got the opportunity that they otherwise would not have had ?

Grateful is a very strong word. It should not be used to attack adoptees with regards to the feelings that they have. Being Grateful for what one has , being grateful for opportunities, etc has nothing to do with being adopted...one is not a mirror of the other...

I think that people should really think about it long and hard, and stop telling adoptees to be grateful, adoptees are grateful, as much as any other child is...there really isnt any need to tell them to be it, and it just makes them hurt. 

ETA: Oh and Ive decided to publish your RIDICULOUS comments on the blog post you left them on , as per the link up above

How MUCH did you PAY for her ?

A first mother that has a blog in adoptionville, that I wish was my First Mother...Because then we'd be happily reunited , because we both want the same thing, and we both are not getting the same thing.....has written a post entitled EMMA You can click on the name and it will take you to that post.....

So anyway Suz from Writing My Wrongs has posted this blog post about a little girl in her sons soon to be first grade class at school ...so about 6 years old...and about the conversations that ensue between the parents of some of the children including Emma's...

Adoptive Mother....

Who asked another woman about her child "Is Ava adopted" which would be a fucking given considering that she is not Asian at all, the mother that is.. To which this mother said yes she is and to which this *mother* of Emma said very excitedly so was Emma...

You need to keep in context that this is not some private adult conversation, this is IN FRONT of ALL The children..

But besides all the where did you get her from's, the what orphanage etc the worst was to come and all in front of a dear sweet First Grader to be... 

HOW MUCH DID YOU PAY FOR HER 

Totally reminds me of "how much did you pay for that doggie in the window, the one with the waggily tail"

If I ever EVER hear that sort of conversation I will not be as restrained as Suz was, I will lash out at whoever said it.

I can only imagine how hard it was for Suz to hear that, as a first mother..and all the feelings it invoked. But for me as an adoptee who was not a freaking GIFT to anyone, who was not a commodity that was bought and sold, there would be only anger and deep hurt....


I feel so sad for this little girl *Emma* and the little girl *Ava* and for all the little children who have been adopted and their insensitive parent/s that speak of them as a commodity..And not behind closed doors on no! We have a new breed of insensitive parents out their now - they do it IN FRONT Of the child.


But Do remember Emma's and Ava's of this world that no matter how insensitive your adoptive parents are, no matter how much you are referred to as a gift, a commodity and so on that you must be fucking Grateful...


Dont you EVER forget that ! but if you do , you're bound to be reminded of it :P



Ive just received two glorious comments from a woman in a state here in Australia - New South Wales, according to my stats somewhere close to Baulkham Hills...and she just lectured me about my lack of gratitude and how very much she feels sorry for me.. ..


Im going to do a separate post about it ...be sure to catch it...

Adopt Domestically and get yourself a handy little Tax Credit

But be warned adopting domestically might earn you a damaged older child...

At least according to one commenter on this article

Adopting domestically can lower hurdles to claiming tax credit

Years ago, Congress sought to ease this financial burden by enacting a generous tax credit for parents who adopt. This year, eligible parents can claim a tax credit of up to $11,650, per child, to cover adoption expenses. A credit is more valuable than a deduction because it comes off the top of your tax bill.

But tougher restrictions on international adoptions could force prospective parents to wait longer to claim the adoption tax credit — and some might not be able to claim it at all.

According to the article if you adopt domestically in the USA you can apply for the credit the year you adopt or the year after, but if you adopt internationally you must apply the year that you adopt and look out if the adoption is unsuccessful because there is no credit at all

Of course because of the incentive and less wait time to adopt domestically people are now looking to domestic but there are not so many fresh bubs available so people have to look at the older kids or special needs kids. 

This worries me, people shouldn't be looking to adopt a special needs child because of the $$ attachment with it or the LESS Waiting time, they should be doing it because its in their heart to WANT To do it.

Not for the $11,650 credit  that comes with the special needs child (older child, siblings, or children with disabilities) You even get the full amount if you arent that much out of pocket with a special needs child.

And the mega bonus - you dont even have to wait till the adoption is finalized to claim the credit ! 

Why? Is the state trying to offload these kids ? seems like it.

But as the commentor Cuddles wrote in with, 

You seem to have forgotten to mention that adopting domestically means getting older children.
With the older children you have allot problems, some you won't see till after they have lived with you for awhile and all the tax credit in the world, won't replaced peed on carpet, holes in the walls, your reputation when your child makes up lies and has the police called, it won't repay you for all the days off work you will miss, going to therapy sessions, millions of meetings at school for your adoptive angel.
I won't give my kids up, but if I had known what was going to happen, I would never have adopted in the first place!
The states have no support system in place to help the families. Once the child is adopted, they whipe their hands clean of the whole mess and leave the parents wondering what hit them.

Look out because no amount of money can offset the *damaged* kid you're going to get.

Whilst I emphathise with Cuddles and I see her point about the state wiping their hands and there being no help readily available for situations that can be extremely difficult,  it makes me angry and sad to see crap like that written.

Words sarcasticly written like "adoptive angel" and statements such as 

"but if I had known what was going to happen, I would never have adopted in the first place!"

I hope in hell that her kids never ever stumble across this article and work out who cuddles is, or someone else works out who cuddles is and decides to tell them

You know that there are children who are born into their family biologically that cause their parents just as many headaches and heartaches. But you cant squeeze them back through the birth canal.
It really hurts to read comments from adoptive parents making statements such as the ones that cuddles wrote. I certainly didnt pee on the floor or smash walls but I can tell you I did give my parents one hell of a ride parenting me, because of all my issues from non identity. From being adopted...Thankfully for me I had a very loving set of adoptive parents who NEVER once said they wished they had never adopted..not even on the times that I lashed out and said that I wish they had never adopted me and how much I hated them. (totally untrue but totally rampant teenage hormones raging mixed with complete identity crisis)

Seriously  people that say stuff like what cuddles  has  should be ashamed.

Incacerated Mothers.........

Dropped into my google alerts today was an article about a birth mother frustrated over state adoption.

This woman that they have named Michelle killed a friend (accidentally). Shes going to be incacerated for 10-30 years. She was looking at having her parental rights terminated. But then was offered an *open* adoption. One where she would not have her rights terminated as a parent and one where she could have contact with her two girls.

BALONEY.

My thoughts on open adoption are all the way through my blog and you can have a look through yourself to fine that I just believe them in MOST cases to be just a sneaky backdoor of adoption.

Back to Michelle, Michelle from what i have read didnt murder this friend. She didnt shoot her, she didnt stab her, she didnt starngle or suffocate her, nor did she bop her one over the head , nor poison her...What she did was kill her friend in a car accident.

I find it incredulous that someone could get 30 years for a car *ACCIDENT* and thats what I read it said

"She got 10-30 years for manslaughter, after killing a friend in a car accident."

 I am 100 percent if it was my daughter or son killed in that accident I'd be seeking some sort of justice for them too.I understand that. But if it was NOT on purpose. If it was AN ACCIDENT ?? is it fair to take away anothers life and that of their children too ? if it was an accident?

I dont see the words Vehicular Homicide do you ? 

I understand if drugs and or alcohol were involved then it becomes irresponsible on the drivers behalf , I do get that , but there but for the grace of god go I. Sometimes things happen. Sometimes people are stupid.

I just dont understand how there are rapists and murderers and paedophiles out there that get lighter sentences OR Not at all sentenced , but someone who killed a friend in a car accident gets 10 to 30 years ? but not for Murder . for MANSLAUGHTER - ie there was NO INTENT

Therefore if she got 10 to 30 years and say she was the model prisoner she could get out in 10 or less with good behavior. How does that justify removing her children from her and changing their names through adoption forever amen?

They were SEVEN - old enough to know who there Mother is.

Truly its wrong to just keep removing children from their parents for ever amen when there are other ways.

These two were not at risk (from what I have read) they could have been in a permanent foster care position and not had to change their names and still had some contact with their mother. They could still lead a normal life for the main part.

I dont know ? should you have to turn your back on your own Mother forever because she killed someone accidently ? should you have to be ashamed of her for that ?

You can read the full story and comments here 

Oh and Michelle did *fall for the open adoption scam* she signed away her parental rights to her two girls because she thought at LEAST she was going to be getting some contact as promised and that (suprise suprise NOT) isnt happening..

When Adoption turns to Murder - or does it ?

Not in this case.

I normally post about the horrors of children adopted and then murdered but I've recently been finding more horrors in the social services area removing children wrongly and accusing their parents adoptive or biological of murder - WRONGLY

But there were those again in the UK social services ready to say that it did. Ready enough to send two innocent people to Jail.- those same two people who 15months later were acquitted. Wrongly accused of murdering their adopted baby boy

In 2002 A couple by the name of Ian and Angela Gay were told the news that they had been granted adoption of 3 siblings a boy (3) another boy (nearly 2) and a girl (10mthns) all siblings. Angela and Ian Gay were over the moon.

Within a year that would change and they would be incarcerated in hell instead, one child dead and the other two taken from them.

This couple spent 15 months in Jail of a 5 year sentence for manslaughter of the eldest child Christian.-  Apparently they had killed this little boy within a short time of him arriving into their home by giving him 4 and half teaspoons of salt.

That conviction was overturned on appeal.

This is too ludicrous even for the doubting thomas's out there to believe that this was even believable in the first place, but yet some how thats what happened, some idiot in a hospital said thats what killed the child and these people were sent to jail and the other two siblings not only lost their brother but their new stable home.

You see when this sweet little boy was given to the Gays (very unfortunate name under these terrible circumstances i must say - because they had nothing to be Gay over during this horror show) , when this boy was given to the Gays, the medical information was that he was fine, in good health. No problems at all. 

But that was a lie, apparently he was born 6 weeks premature to a young girl addicted to drugs, and at 12 months of age he was removed and taken into care as he was malnourished. ( it was reported that he couldn't crawl either but that holds no weight with me, my own child didn't crawl until one week before turning one - different children at different stages) 

But none of this was told to the Gays.Apparently this little boy had been to hospital 8 times in the first year of his life and eventually diagnosed with hydrocephalus which is fluid on the brain which guess what ? causes a build up of GUESS WHAT ? yup you got it  SODIUM.on the body.

There is so much that is wrong with this entire handling of this case from the social workers reports with the Gays to the handling of the Gays through the adoption process, to the hospital staff handling of the report on Christian, just so many many things that screamed HOLD THE PHONE - this is not child abuse...

But they had their *so called* expert Professor Roy Meadows,, papers that spoke numerous times of non accidental salt poisoning. Sir Roy Meadows - thats right this man has been Knighted , and remains Knighted despite having sent THREE Mothers to prison WRONGFULLY For the murders of their children...

 So where does this leave the Gays? well frankly not very bloody Gay at all I would imagine, after having their lives completely RIPPED out from underneath them. I can not imagine their pain. I can not imagine how hard it must be to still see crap like this up from media. ...........and seriously there should be a law that if someone has been acquitted of something then the *muck* should be removed..

This was a report done by Times Online January 2005 where it remains up for the world to see..

Couple killed adopted son with salt after deciding he was too naughty

They've been acquitted it needs to be removed. The things that were told to the social worker have been reworded to make the Gays out to sound like horrendous cruel people.. I just dont see it. Not in this case.

And nor did 12 of their peers who acquitted them

Whats written in this article is irresponsible reporting and should now be removed.

You can check this article out HERE and have a look for yourselves into the face of these normal people just like you, just like me that had their world turned upside down.

Remember it could happen to ANYONE.

The process really needs a very good overhaul, seems to me that the real child abusers get away with murder yet the innocents somehow end up in a unbelievable horror show.....
It really is time to start having impartial bodies to do investigations, to hold inquiries into social workers and people involved in adoption, fostercare, and childrens services..


Don't you think?

The dark and seedy side to corruption in adoption

We are all aware in blogging land of the dark and seedy side to adoptions that are through unethical means, from the usual underprivileged and or overpopulated countries like Guatemala, Kazakhstan, Russia, China etc....where children are stolen, children are sold into adoption agencies and or facilitators in countries like the USA which has featured heavily in the news more than any other place.

But what about unethical adoptions withing ones own country ? through ones own government? helping to facilitate the THEFT of children for adoption ? What about that dark and seedy side of adoption corruption?

Do you know much about it ?

How can you be 100% sure that something like the following I'm about to tell you wont happen to you?

Its scary its VERY scary.

There is a couple in the UK in a place called Norfolk, They had four children, but three of their children are adopted.

Adopted by them ? whats so unusual about that ? people adopt all the time..No NOT adopted by them, adopted FROM Them.

Thats right three of their four children were removed from them for alleged abuse and wait for it, not investigated thoroughly, not put with temporary foster care but GIVEN AWAY For ADOPTION - ie PERMANENTLY REMOVED forever into their *GAG* FOREVER FAMILIES *GAG*

Are you frightened yet ?

Check it out here For the full details. It appears that on the Mothers side , Nicky Webster, she has a hereditary condition called Brittle Bone Disease or OI  osteogenesis imperfecta you can read about it HERE

The disorder is typically a dominant genetic trait that is passed through the parents, 

Types IV, V, and VI OI share the same clinical features. Deformities are mild to moderate, often accompanied by discolored sclera and early loss of hearing. The risk of bone fractures is highest before puberty

Wow gee Fancy that..Passed on by a parent (ie Nicky the Mother) and oh lets see the risk of bone fractures is highest before puberty.

And just for a little more information read HERE  

As a complex childhood disorder, Brittle Bone Disease is the leading condition attributing to fractures in small children. Because fractures are rather small and slight, many parents of children with Brittle Bone Disease, often do not realize the child is suffering from the condition.

You can read about the Websters Save our Children campaign Here 

Their First three children were forcibly removed and adopted out. Stolen from them. There is no other word.

In a family court hearing that lasted ONE DAY the fates of three little children were decided and sealed with the slam of a gavel giving them up forever to adoption and breaking their parents hearts at the very same time.

Where was the full enquiry ? where was all the investigations ? There wasnt it was all a complete sham of a investigation that ripped three innocents from their parents who had Done nothing wrong except pass on a disease.

Also makes you wonder WHO Was the starting pin for this nightmare ? who spoke out against this family tainting the parents with abuse against their children ? Who was the one that started the nightmare for this family with their careless unthought out words? You can read here as to how it may have begun

They had a 4th child..Brandon and in November 2006 they got to take him home, out of their 4 children they got to keep one. STRANGE ISNT IT. I mean hell if they are abusers then why allow them to keep any child ?

BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT ABUSERS - thats why. They are victims of a corrupt dark adoption force. A corrupt and inept welfare system, an inept legal system.

And of course baby Brandon was not born in England, no he was born in Ireland.......it makes you wonder doesnt it ? whether that has something to do with it and the 5mths that Nicky and Mark had to be under 24x7 scrutiny  with baby Brandon was just a whole big ruse to *look* like social welfare was investigating them..but in fact they were never going to take this baby because he was not born in England.......................

How interesting also that the Brittle Bone Society has this up on its site

New research has identified a gene mutation that helps explain some types of OI. This is a significant finding as the mutation is not in type 1 collagen and cannot therfore be identified by current tests

This new mutation may be helpful for children and families who are facing accussations of child abuse and the child has not been tested positive for the known mutations related to OI.

It is thought that this adds a new dimension to DNA tests for OI and may explain up to 15% of OI cases.

From everything I have been reading today  it seems entirely plausible that as this is a GENETIC disease that MUTATES anything is possible and that includes skipping a generation or that Nicky just doesnt have this debilitating condition YET.

How too can the *adoptive parents* live with themselves knowing that they have WRONGLY Adopted these children. Hey here is a question for you..imagine your child...now imagine someone falsely accusing you of abusing your child and then removing that child from you FOREVER. not just for an investigation period of tine, but FOREVER.

You know, I take child abuse VERY Seriously, I believe that there is far too much child abuse to out dear sweet children, and I understand the whole better safe than sorry concept, but to REMOVE Children permanently , to give them away FOREVER to someone else because ONE child had a fracture ?

Come on doesnt Everyone see the horror in that ?

Has the world gone stark raving mad ?

Do you know that with this recount of what happened to the Hardinghams 3 children HERE that I couldn't even get through the entirety of the page because of crying and the sick feeling in my stomach. I can only imagine how Nicky and Mark feel...
What makes me cry even more is even if they do *win* its on paper only , the adoptions can never be undone???????????????
How can that be right ? surely if a miscarriage of justice was done, ie the children wrongly removed, the children wrongly  adopted , STOLEN BY SOCIAL SERVICES FOR ADOPTION - surely the children MUST be returned to their LAWFUL parents? after all if they are cleared of wrongdoing then the adoption is no longer a valid reasonable adoption is it

What the social services , doctors and court bungling bureaucrats have done is the REAL Child ABUSE - ripping apart a happy loving family.

Nicky and Mark Hardingham you have my full support. I will be following your case very closely and May these idiots see their wrong doing and return your children to you VERY SOON.

Congratulations too on the upcoming new baby........Please have this baby in Ireland also...xxx

Enna Barreto And The House Of Horrors

I knew in my heart that Ennas death was not the only thing that these so called Parents *adoptive* were at the root of. Ive been saying all along that I am convinced that there was more to this than the adoptive sister aged 17 years old charged with Ennas death

Lets face it people who keep a puppy mill and keep the dogs (and other various) animals in that sort of swill condition are also more than likely to be abusing their own children. Ever heard that saying about how a person keeps their car is a insight into how they keep their home ? Well the same goes here. You can not be abusive to animals and be non abusive elsewhere in your life. It just doesn't work in the psyche like that 

They kept their dogs in despicable conditions locked in cages and so too it is alleged that they did so with their adopted child Adriana Killough, also known as Adriana Santana Lema who was allegedly caged in a closet for prolonged periods and forced to eat, sleep, urinate and defecate in the cage, for a period from
- From Sept. 14, 2000, through Feb. 8, 2006. That this adopted child Adriana would then be given away because of a brain condition by Janet Barreto.

These people had 6 other  adopted children from Guatamela as well, an 8 year old boy, Three , 3 year olds and Two, 2 year olds as well as Enna the two year old girl DEAD and Adriana The little girl GIVEN AWAY because she was disabled. 


They prosecutors will hopefully use the Daughter Marainna Torres against her biological Mother Janet Barreto and her step father Ramon Barreto to testify about the abuse that went on in that house of horrors.
Hopefully these poor excuses for human beings will be found guilty and sentenced HARD For the horrors that they endured in that hell hole house.. What hell must they have thought they had landed in coming from their poor country Guatemala to this living nightmare in the USA.....



One can only hope that they will be eventually adopted by some decent adoptive parents giving them their right to be loved and cared for OR Better yet that they are indeed found to be a part of the *GUATEMALA scandal* and that they are some of the children who were caught up in it, stolen from their mothers and adopted out AKA Sold to the USA..and they are returned to their parents...

One can only hope that that  is the case....

You can read the full article HERE  

Eight Years Today - 8 Long Sad Years

My Mother passed away 8 years ago.........

It still hurts. 

It still hurts A LOT

No Mother to hold me and just be there for me

No Mother to see me get married 

No Mother to see my children born and grow up

But I do have a Mother that is alive ........But she chooses to slam that door in my face to those things.

Today I hurt and wish like anything that My adoptive Mother was still alive. She loved me more than life itself. How she cherished me with all her heart.

She was what an Adoptive Parent should be.

She was everything thing that an adoptive parent should be when taking on the responsibility of raising someone else's child.

Except for one thing that I found out in recent months.

Never lie to your adopted child EVER

I can guess with nearly 100% certainty why she did it, after all the 60's were about deception, lies and secrecy (and the world doesn't seem to have changed much in that regard in 40 years either!!!) So I know in her heart and mind the secret she held within her heart and probably buried in some deep dark recess of her mind, she believed she was doing it to protect me..

Which is all well and good if that secret never sees the light of day. But it did. Secrets and Lies will always eventually be exposed even if its when the person is dead. And then it hurts more because you cant even ask the person *why* *why did you do this*

But it doesn't change how much I love her. I just wish she had been open and honest with me when she had the chance to do so and clear her conscience before she died.

My Mum died a horrific death from Cancer.

I believe Lies , Secrecy and Deception which equals Stress , inner turmoil causes Cancer. I really do believe that.

So don't lie..be true to yourself and others.

And today will pass and I will still Miss my Mum and Love her with all my heart....I just wish she had trusted that enough to tell me ..........

Love You Mum xxx

"If tears could build a stairway, and memories a lane,

I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again."

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Tagged By The Queen of Memes..................

Apparently :) I dont know as I dont usually do this sort of thing..A Meme its called. So Mimi The Queen Of Memes has tagged me as they say...

The Meme is a simple one you have to put in your Name and then the word Needs So I have put in 
Jane Needs and come up with this little array of goodies ...I think my husband will be pleased with the first One dont you ;)

1. Jane needs servicing. Really ? Im not a Car! But Im sure hubby will be happy to hear this
2. Jane needs to find an introduction to alcoholism so she can decide what aspect of the disease is most interesting to her.Hmmm I dont find alcholism interesting I think its Sad...but I do love a good drop of Red!

3. Jane Needs a Shot of Adrenaline Absolutely !
4. Jane Needs to Look Nice Pftt I already do thanks !
5. Jane Needs Your Help Absolutely I need your help to sort some things out ;)
6. JANE NEEDS A MAN Hmmm Well I already have one...
7.Jane Needs To Get A Life Well just look at the previous post and you will see I've already been told that LOL
8. Jane needs a home Ah But I have a beautiful home - perhaps it means home in the heart of my mother?
9. Jane Needs A Break She sure does from all the gossiping currently going on !
10. Jane needs to know Oooh yes definitely - Im a need to know kinda gal !

Rolls Eyes - A little Reminder is so obviously needed...

Today I got a lovely little comment from a anon person on a post that was way back in June this year

Im obviously going to have to do a little reminder to those anon suckers and link this for them - so here we are 

To all Anonymous posters the ones that hide behind anon to post nasty vile insults to me this is for you PLEASE READ Oh whoops there goes me being the polite adoptee again ! lets try that again - READ THIS 

Today I got a comment well just under a hour ago actually from a Fellow Aussie In NSW who belongs to Westnet and uses Firefox- yes I have your IP address as well. So please feel free to insult me some more 

Anyway this is what they wrote .........

Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "Enna Baretto Update The Tragedy":

You seriously need help Jane!Stop using adoption for your life being so hard.I'm adopted and if you appreciated what you had more rather that what u don't or didn't then maybe your kids would have some hope for the future.Yes of course everyone sees adoption in their own way! Adopted or not! But why let it rule your life and why do you speak such utter rubbish!!!! Obviously you don't care too much of what people think of you? you must not have, as you haven't got the message people are laughing at you!ha ha.I actually get a lot of enjoyment from your blog Jane.It's so pathetic that you just have to laugh out loud! Anyway all the best with getting that professional help that you so desperately need!!! Urgently if you could hun.XXX 

Of course I decided not to publish it because it was way back in June...But I thought I would give it the notoriety it deserves and re post it here...........

To show you that words are just vessels for anothers pain...

Anonymous people really don't do it for me