Is Adoption Really a Christian Duty?

Whilst doing my Digg I came across THIS Article

Is Adoption Really a Christian Duty?

By Charlene Israel

CBN News

May 30, 2008

CBNNews.com - The Bible tells us to care for the orphans and that task grows tougher each year. Right now, there are an estimated 140 million orphans worldwide. How can we stem this tide? A group of Christian organizations and churches are working together to find the answer.

Images of children singing and dancing with joyful hearts are not usually associated with orphans. But that is just one focus of the Christian Alliance for Orphans, a group working to heighten awareness and motivate Christians to care for orphans.

More than 600 church and ministry leaders met recently in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida for an adoption summit to spread the word to the world.

Che Walters is the president of Caring World.

"Originally I'm an immigrant from Camaroon, Africa," he said. "I've seen the big need for the world to join together to help the orphan kids and I think part of my mission is to join this global fight."

800,000 Children in U.S. Foster Care

Bethann Richard came all the way from Joshua, Texas to attend the summit.

"When you've had an opportunity to watch a child get water to drink from the same pond that animals are drinking from and standing in it changes you. You realize there's a world out there that needs your help," she told CBN News. "It's important for me to be here to learn how to help those kids."

Disaster, disease and neglect have put more than 143 million children in a desperate situation. The Burma cyclone and the China earthquake have left thousands of children orphaned in just a matter of days. According to recent statistics, every fourteen seconds -- an AIDS-related death takes a parent away from their children. Some 800,000 children pass through America's foster care system each year.

Maridel Sandberg is the co-founder of the Christian Alliance for Orphans. She believes the Church is the answer to that problem.

"We're just encouraging the whole body, everybody," she told CBN News. "Not everybody can adopt. Not everybody can go to China. But you can be here as a resource. You can care for a foster child. You can provide resources," Sandberg explained. "You can provide respite for a foster family, who just needs a break from their kids. It's what God is doing and we get to benefit, because we get to be along to watch him work right there."

Kay Warren, author and wife of renowned pastor Rick Warren, issued a stirring challenge for the Church to do more about caring for orphans.

"Six years ago, I became a serious and permanently-disturbed woman," she said. "This is what it will take for orphans for the Church to respond. The Church must become -- not this -- 'God, yes, I surrender,' but so disturbed that we are compelled," Warren explained. "We must act. It no longer becomes optional. It no longer becomes something we do if we have time, if we can fit it into our schedules."

Celebrities are also joining the fight to save orphans. Eduardo Verastegui, one of the stars of the pro-family movie Bella, credits the film for changing his outlook on life.

"My goal and our goal should be to empty every single orphanage in the world," he said. "Children don't need to be there. They should have a family who loves them. If more people think about adoption, if more people know about what adoption really is, no children would be in orphanages. Instead of orphanages, we need to have the children placed in families that care for them and that's what I want to do," Verastegui continued.

Focus on the Family's John Fuller says a growing number of Christians share the same sentiments as Verastegui.

"I think what we're seeing here with 600 or more people is just the start of something and in five or 10 years it's going to be pretty uncommon to not adopt or not care for orphans," he said. "I think the norm will be for Christians to be engaged in more than just giving, but in going and in helping kids."

Jedd Medefind is Deputy Director of the White House Faith-Based Initiative. He sees more Christians getting involved in adoption.

"All over the country Christians in particular, are saying this is a central call of my faith and we're going to engage adoption issues abroad. But often what's exciting is as they're engaging need overseas, they're beginning to see the needs in their own community with foster care," Medefind explained. And so we're seeing on all those levels just a really sweeping engagement of the church in orphan needs."

Orphans Promise

CBN's Operation Blessing is behind a new initiative called Orphans Promise.

Natalia Khomyak is the spokesperson for Orphans Promise. "We're trying to be the hands and feet of the Lord to these children," she said. "We are trying to be the parents they do not have."

CBN partners Christian and Colleen Bunse are helping to spread the word about adoption and Orphans Promise.

"Right now, our heart and our vision is to incorporate churches," Mrs. Bunze said. "Mobilize churches sharing the same heart for orphans and coming alongside churches and helping them build an orphan ministry through Orphans Promise.

"Orphans Promise has a vision that is big and it is a vision that can help all these kids," Bunze told CBN News. "As we came to this orphans summit, we realized that there are other organizations that have the same vision -- how do we work together as a team to help all the 143 million orphans around the world?"

Like a growing number of Christian couples, Andrew and Alisia Buckner of South Florida have answered the call to adopt. The couple already have four children from previous marriages when their church inspired them to adopt four more.

"The need is such that if there are a hundred kids out there for adoption, the number of infant white babies is really small," Buckner said. "So if you're waiting for that you're going to miss out on this great opportunity."

And when asked if adoption was something they prayed about, Mrs. Buckner had this response. "It was absolutely something we prayed over, because left up to us we would have talked ourselves out of it. We would have been too scared. Then there's alway the questions of are we going to have enough money and what it this going to do to the children living at home?"

People attending this summit and events like it are becoming more equipped and better prepared to care for orphans not only in America, but around the world. As the church becomes more involved, the hope is there will be more doers of God's word and not just hearers. After all, Jesus said, "Whatever you do for the least of these, you do unto me."

Right now, there are an estimated 140 million orphans worldwide.

140 MILLION ORPHANS Worldwide !!!

Can you believe that number ? But what do we have ? do we have people adopting these orphans ?
NO we do not, what we have is self entitled prospective adoptive parents writing out their wish list for the type of child they want...What we have is people going to places like Guatemala and ripping babies and children away from their mama by giving them 30 bucks and case of coke oh and don't forget the X BOX Game.

Why ? why take away children that HAVE parents ? (unless of course they are in foster care and have abusive parents and have been removed from their parents) But why go to another country and get a infant or child that has a parent or parents but is just too poor or young or confused ?

There are 140 MILLION Orphan Worldwide Available now for adoption... PLEASE TAKE one of THESE Children into your home and adopt them......

800,000 children are in Foster Care in the United States of America...

800 000

EIGHT HUNDRED THOUSAND .....

Please leave the other babies with their confused teenage mums in the name of family preservation......That is what being a Christian is about ....

Rejection, Hurt and Always Two Sides

There is always two sides to every story.

People abuse and discount First Mothers (Birth Mothers) because they can't understand how any woman who carried and nurtured a baby for 9 months can go and just hand it over to someone else..
I didn't understand it myself, having had 2 babies, not sure that I will ever really understand it as such..... But then you find the internet, and you come across some amazing women. Women who have given up their baby to adoption..

WRONG

Sorry........Wrong Word used.....Did I say *given up* pftt nearly got myself snowed there - FORCED to Give up, COERCED to Give up, BLACKMAILED to Give up.....whatever you want to call it....if they had of had support emotionally and financially they would not have allowed their child to be TAKEN from their bosom.

That is True in Many Cases of Adoption and certainly in the Baby Scoop Era...unfortunately for me I don't believe that was the case. I was abandoned, unwanted, unloved........ Right from the moment I was conceived it was always going to be an uphill battle for me in my life...

And so I turn to my story and how much I hurt in this life.........

I have everything what most girls dream of...Lovely Husband, 2 children 1 of each, Fancy House, Fancy Car, Fancy Clothes etc ...

What I don't have is friends......What I don't have is a network of people that want to be around me all the time...Sure I have some Friends, I have a couple of friends who I have know for most of my life and some newer friends…I don’t have friends
Like on Desperate Housewives or Mistresses or Sex and The City, That real close knit Group of friends that you see daily….or every other day…that you can say whatever to and they wont judge you, misunderstand you or the worst hurt of all reject you..

When people reject you, as an adoptee speaking here, when they say things about you, when they all get together and egg each other on , when they make their mind up that you are mean and nasty and other things...because they *heard* that it was so, that they heard *something* and so they make you out to be the baddie, it really hurts. I'm not bad. My whole life I have felt that there must have been something *bad* about me for my mother to reject me and want to give me away for total strangers...But after reunion (if you could call if that) I knew that wasn't the case, I wasn't bad then and I'm not bad now.

My heart is full of Goodness and honest intent, but sometimes in this life when I get hurt I get all defensive and tend to be confrontational. Its like an automatic defence mechanism. Of course, it doesn't EVER Work, but I still continue to do it. Just like I still continue to stick my nose in - to get chopped off - again full of good intent , no second agenda, just trying to help..but my help is not welcome, instead it is turned against me and then I am the one in the wrong.. Somehow, Someway I need to SHUT UP and keep my opinion to myself. I don’t know why it is , I don't know why other people can give opinions, Other people can tell me all my faults, tell me how *bad* I've been, list off all the things I have erred in, but when i need to say something, my view point is unwelcome and spiteful.

Why cant people make up their own mind by listening to two sides of a story? Why do they have to turn right around and hurt me? When they don't even know me, or what my side of the story is.

Not everyone in this life will like everyone else, that’s to be expected, their opinions will clash, their personalities will clash, their fundamental view points will clash, but does that make them bad? I reserve calling people *Bad* for the very evil people in this world who commit horrific atrocities against mankind, not for those people who have a loud mouth, stick their big foot in things or have a confrontational way of dealing with things. I certainly would be very subjective to ever call an adoptee bad...given how adoptees in general feel through their life , ie that they must have been bad to have been given away...

I've got so much rejection going on in my life at the moment both online and in real life that I've actually started getting chest pains. I’ve gone to the doctor I’ve had a ECG and bloods, basically it’s either a Virus with anxiety thrown in or just pure exhaustion from everything going on in my life at the moment.

I Wish that people would get to know me better without judging me on having a confrontational way about things....I always try to help, I always try to listen to others problems, and be a shoulder to cry upon, but where does all that good stuff disappear to when someone else says something bad about me ? ...Doesn't anything that I do count for anything in this life?

There are very few and far between things that i will ever really get nasty about. Lying is one of those things, I am abhorrently against lying I can not stand Liars, I still wouldn't call them bad though, I would say that they did a bad thing.
I suppose I have this absolute disdain of Lying and Liars because I have been lied to my entire life... And still to this day there isn't ONE person I can say I trust with all My heart. and I don't ever think there will be.......I found out earlier this year that even my parents deemed it fit to lie about a monumental factor in my life...the fact that I had a older sibling, on the other side of the world. So even my beautiful fogged up happiness about my parents being the Saints of Truthfulness went out the window...

I've had so much hurt these past 10 years since I searched for my Birth Mother ( I cant call her anything else. she never wanted to be anything other than that to me)

I DO sometimes sit and wonder was it worth it? I don't have the answer to that, I really don’t. Because where has it got me? Am I sitting around having Coffee and Cake with my family? or a Bottle of wine or two :P - No I am not.

Am I happier than I was 10 years ago? No I am not. In fact I reckon despite all the things in my life I am unhappier. Because there is no happy ending, there is no solution, there is no reunion like you see on a movie with a running towards each other scene.........and sure for some people, that will and does happen, but what happens if it doesn’t? what are you left with when your own Mother says "No I don't want to know" - a Lot of bitterness, a Lot of hurt, a lot of confusion, a lot of anger and a lot of overwhelming sadness, and a whole LOT Of rejection issues to deal with.

One of the things that people who have known me for a long time will say about me is that I am a very loving person, a Very giving Person, a Trustworthy and Honest person. A person who will sit and hold your hand when you are sad...My downside is that with all that Nice Emotional stuff comes the really hard emotional stuff...the paranoia, the desperateness, all stemming from rejection. The trouble with me is that I trust too much, I allow people into my heart quickly and I trust them, and usually it is those very same people that will turn and bite me on the ass, to suit their own agenda.
How do you work with that? How do you get out of being involved in that so that its YOU that comes out looking like the bad guy ?
One thing I have found about the internet, as much as I really love it, for its gateway to so many things is that the written word can so often be misinterpreted. When people know you as a person in real life, they will know the context in what you write to them, but when people do not know you at all, and if you add on top to that different cultural upbringing it can really muddy the waters.
One of my absolute problems is that because I cant stand people not liking me, cant stand people rejecting me, I flounder like a beached whale trying desperately to get back into his comfort of the vast ocean....I scramble and flounder almost begging at times for people to please understand, please listen to me, and go all on the defensive mode, at times being confrontational and attacking...
This of course doesn’t work. It can and does for some people but not for me. It NEVER Works for me, I just end up in more shit.
One thing I can not stand is for people to think badly of me. To think ill of me. To categorize me in some manner that isn’t true, and in most instances purely because of a misunderstanding. I wish with all my heart that people would just talk to me. Have a real conversation with me, not attack me and make me feel like I just have to say sorry over and over. Because I WILL Say sorry, I will apologize for anytime that I am in the wrong. But just because your opinion and my opinion on something are at odds does that make my opinion wrong?
I'm a GOOD Person. And I'm suffering so much at the moment. I don’t know how I can possibly continue on this way for the next 20,30,40 years...At the moment its just not possible to get any therapy to guide me through this rejection heartache that I am feeling is like Quicksand, But when my youngest starts school in 3 years I have already promised myself that I'm going to get Therapy regularly to start to overcome these humongous hurdles that I seem to have, to not allow others to hurt me so that I react, in turn causing a major issue, compared to if I had NOT of reacted ...that the problem would just die a natural death.. It’s almost like I HAVE to prove that I am right otherwise the world will fall apart...my world...

When I am in a place of rejection, I feel like I can not breathe, I feel like it is a matter of urgency of life and death. that I just HAVE to FIX This right now...time takes on a whole new dimension, other people will wait a day or two, think the issue through and then give an appropriate response but I immediately react crashing everything in my path to make my point understood.

That doesn't mean that I am bad or evil, it just means that I struggle really hard when rejection comes knocking on my door once again.

None of us are perfect in this life; we have all done things that we are not proud of. But is it right to just reject someone without ever speaking to them, without ever knowing the full story, the full truth? And if it were you in that persons place and it happened to you could you cope with the rejection? Of course I'm not talking about blatant lying...I'm referring more to the he said, she said, they said, we all said, type scenarios that happens in this life.

How do people accuse others of doing mean, bad, wrong things and then go and do the same or similar things themselves ? I will always Try to learn from my mistakes, and I do make plenty but I will never ever purposely hurt anyone, and I will in fact go out of my way to stick up for people and look out for them.....I read a wonderful blog the other day , I go back to it often, and one of the posts was about grace..Its titled Amazing Grace How sweet it is and it probably touched me, drew me to it because that is what I sang to my mother as she lay dying in her hospice bed...so I read this post and I truly felt in awe of this blog owner and writer as she spoke of walking with grace, and its true there are those type of people in this life, although few and far between, but they are out there and they are truly amazing and inspiring to live up to. I have far too many issues at the moment to even begin contemplating being that person, but I have put it away in my mind to at least TRY to walk with grace....and then one day after I can overcome this war I have going on with rejection, I will walk with Grace.

This Person also wrote a wonderful post here about Building Bridges and again some very wise words ...and its true...I do tend to want to only see things from my view point, but it happens a lot in reverse as well, where my view point is not allowed to be heard, I have to be silenced....and for me that equals rejection yet again. Why isnt my point of view as valid as MaryJo's ? It is hard because I know I can be quite forceful in my way of expressing things...but I wish that people could see the good thoughts and intent behind my insistence on things...I do however try to build bridges but often they get set alight while I'm half way across, fumbling my way through the haze of rejection to actually get out the right words....

Its been a real roller coaster of emotions for me since I reunited with my birth mother which was strikingly hard to do due to the fact that my Adoptive Mother was dying, and my birth mothers reluctance for 3 YEARS To tell my older Sister about me....Something changed inside of me when my Birth Mother rejected me again.....and my Adoptive Mother Died...

I do not know what it is but its all centered around rejection. I have always been emotional its a Birth family trait, I have since learnt....but this overwhelming need to have everyone NOT reject me , to make them understand me, is really quite damaging....

My Husbands mother in fact said "Good" "its not good for you" "you need to let go" when I spoke of how hard it all was and I was stopping contact with my birth family for a while....Emails and phone calls that is...
That isnt right ..its not good for me...Pushing people away is NOT good for you.
I don't know what the right thing is anymore because clearly I'm doing something dreadfully wrong to have so many people dislike me and not want to be around me...and you know when other adoptees reject you....that equals a very ,very hard and hurtful place to be in.......

I'm not really sure what the future holds.

But I do know that I am a GOOD person...I just need a little help in seeing through the not so great way I sometimes have of dealing with other people....

There is something just so damn wrong here

My Heart Aches for this baby boy

There is just something so fundamentally wrong in seeing this in a newspaper

Published May 29, 2008 03:42 pm - The Unnamed Father of the child born to Joella Louise Summitt on the 13th day of May, 2008, is hereby notified that a Petition for the Adoption of the child was filed on or about May 14, 2008 in the office of the Clerk of Daviess Circuit Court, City of Washington, County of Daviess, State of Indiana.

Petition for adoption filed

STATE OF INDIANA

COUNTY OF KNOX

IN THE

DAVIESS CIRCUIT COURT

2008 TERM

CAUSE NO.

14C01-0805-AD-132

IN RE: THE ADOPTION OF

BLAKE JOSEPH SUMMITT,

A Minor Child

NOTICE TO UNNAMED FATHER

The Unnamed Father of the child born to Joella Louise Summitt on the 13th day of May, 2008, is hereby notified that a Petition for the Adoption of the child was filed on or about May 14, 2008 in the office of the Clerk of Daviess Circuit Court, City of Washington, County of Daviess, State of Indiana.

If the Unnamed Father of the child wishes to contest the Adoption, he must file a Motion to contest the Adoption in accordance with IC 31-3-1-6.3 with the Court above within thirty (30) days after the last notice of this action was published.

If the Unnamed Father does not file a Motion to contest the Adoption within thirty (30) days after the last notice of this action was published, the Court named above will hear and determine the Petition for Adoption on the 1st day of July, 2008, at 2:00 p.m. in the Daviess Circuit Court. The contest of the Unnamed Father will be irrevocably implied and he will also lose his right to challenge either the Adoption or the validity of his implied contest to the Adoption. He will lose his right to establish paternity of the child under Indiana code.

Dated this 22nd day of May, 2008.

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Adopted Jane

Lancer Lord

14 Yr Old Killer Must have been Adopted............

UGH

Whilst doing my morning DIGG from my Google Updates...I came across this little pearler

Woman described as devoted to daughter

By David Hasemyer and Steve Liewer

UNION-TRIBUNE STAFF WRITERS

May 27, 2008

SCRIPPS RANCH – Rebecca “Becky” D'Aoust appeared to be a devoted mother to her youngest daughter.

Rebecca D'Aoust

D'Aoust would hurry to the girl's basketball practice straight from work, and even though she might be late, she made sure to be there, a coach said yesterday.

“She'd come in dressed very nice, in her work clothes,” said Linda Jones, a coach for a Scripps Ranch basketball team that D'Aoust's daughter played on. “So you could see how she wanted to be there for her daughter.”

D'Aoust died yesterday, a day after she was hit in the head with a hammer or some other blunt object in her home.

Her 14-year-old daughter is being held in Juvenile Hall on suspicion of murder.

Police believe D'Aoust, 56, was the victim of a violent outburst by the girl Sunday morning.

The death has shaken neighbors and brought tears to the eyes of friends close to the D'Aoust family.

“It's horrible what has happened to this family,” said neighbor Lori Erlenbach. “They were a good, close family. That's all that needs to be said right now.”

Neighbor Arthur Moreau, who earlier said he would be acting as the D'Aoust family spokesman, hung up on a reporter yesterday when asked to talk about the D'Aousts.

Officers were called to the home on Canyon Lake Drive near Pinetree Drive just before 9 a.m. and found Becky D'Aoust on the kitchen floor with a serious head injury.

Her husband, James, and an older daughter were sleeping at the home during the attack. Another daughter was away at school.

Lt. Kevin Rooney, a San Diego police homicide detective, said police will present evidence by tomorrow afternoon to the District Attorney's Office, which will decide whether the girl should be charged as a juvenile or an adult.

Rooney said police still don't know what sparked the attack and has declined to release the identity of the daughter because she is a minor. She was known to some former classmates at Miramar Ranch Elementary School as a shy girl who kept a small circle of friends.

“She wasn't a loner but she was someone who didn't try to make a lot friends,” said Janny Jones, a former schoolmate and the daughter of Linda Jones.

Linda Jones said that during the time she coached D'Aoust's daughter in basketball three years ago the girl appeared to be insecure.

“She'd sometimes stand away from the other girls, hang on the edge of the group,” Jones said.

There was never anything to suggest tension between mother and daughter, Jones said. The two appeared happy when they were together, she said.

Becky D'Aoust worked as a counselor at Spreckels Elementary School in the San Diego neighborhood of University City, according to the school's Web site. James D'Aoust is a project manager with the San Diego Supercomputer Center at the University of California San Diego.

Becky D'Aoust was selected for the San Diego Unified School District's “Super Service Commendation Award” in January 2007.

She was known for her work as an adviser to Spreckels' student council. The school's Web site describes a student council anti-litter project that D'Aoust coordinated. Under the program, students who made extra efforts to pick up litter received a discount at the school store.

A former Spreckels first-grade teacher remembered D'Aoust as being friendly and fluent in Spanish, always willing to translate.

“She was extremely helpful to me,” said Doris Bennison of Rancho Peñasquitos.

Staff writer Jose Luis Jiménez and researcher Beth Wood contributed to this report.

But its the 76 (at this point comments) that are appalling....

And at just 14 years of age she is going to be TRIED as an Adult

Of course she must have been adopted...Don't you know all Adoptees have Murder in their Heart

GRRRR Watch Out I'm adopted and I'm coming to get you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :P :P :P

Absurdity....that being adopted = being a murderer. A Biological child can also snap, usually when drugs are involved and commit horrific acts

And here is is written over on this site with speculation and comments from people who *know* the family that she's adopted.

Why is it that everyone immediately says,

- its because she was adopted,
- she was adopted you know,
- well its to be expected - after all she was adopted

Why don't they say , you know she was very unhappy, you know she was on drugs, etc...why is the FIRST condemnation pointed to being adopted ?

Adoptees are NOT a different breed you know, we don't have murder in our hearts and in fact there are MORE news stories about Adoptive Parents killing/abusing their Adopted Child than there are of Adoptees killing their Parents

If everyone is so damn frightened of adoptees becoming little monster murderers then STOP ADOPTING !!

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Be sure to Title your post "Dona Nobis Pacem".

This is important.

The goal is for all blog post titles to say the same thing on the same day.

Write about peace that day or simply fly your globe............................

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Some come on Bloggers Unite and Hurry, get your Globe on....

Adoption only makes that child a legitimate child of the adopter

I dugg this story earlier on today and couldnt go past without commenting ..

The first thing you have to know is that when a foreigner or a former Filipino adopts a Filipino child, the child's citizenship does not change. Adoption only makes that child a legitimate child of the adopter, OK? So don't hasten to give up your children to your relatives living abraod, hoping that your children will have a better life.

***I've left the Quote exactly as it is including their typo of the word abroad, as its not my quote to edit :)***


But isn't that a great paragraph. Based on my previous blog posts about Enna Baretto, the person that wrote that paragraph in regards to not giving your children up to live abroad hoping that they get a better life was spot on weren't they?

And then the letter that was received in regards to the illegal adoption, just sickening and the more these stories are emerging the more that I am becoming sickened as to just how far and wide corruption in adoption is...

they make it appear on the birth certificate that she is the one who gave birth.

Ugh, to think that this STILL goes on rampantly around the world is heart and gut wrenching...

What can be done?

As I said in a previous post, Keeping eyes and ears open, reporting suspicious people whether it be suddenly they have a baby, or whether it be something like with Enna Barreto where the parents were running a vile stinking puppy mill and had numerous kids, because you just have to know if the animals are being treated like shit so are the children..

Adoption IS necessary for orphans, abused children and other situations but Baby selling, Baby Theft, Coercion is all so VERY Wrong and needs to be stamped out .

$50 000 Bond for Homicide

$50, 000 Bond Each for Janet and Ramon Barreto

Just read it HERE

The death has been ruled a homicide but no charges filed

What the hell is wrong with our Justice System in this world ?

Just sickening

Union Co., 05/26/08
Pair Given Bond for Neglect Charges

Two people charged with 7 counts of child endangerment have been given bond of $50,000 on each charge.

Janet and Ramon Barreto were arrested after Union County authorities raided their home on a tip of child neglect. This was after their 2 year old adoptive daughter died in the hospital. That death has been ruled a homicide, but no charges have been filed.

Other children were removed from the home leading to the neglect charges. Deputies also found and removed more than 180 dogs, 25 cats and several ducks.

Whilst Wandering through the Meadow

I'd like everyone to take a gander over HERE

I really like this blog, but there would be one little thing I would change about this particular posting http://decmeadow.blogspot.com/ and that would be the font. White writing on Black Backgrounds are mostly difficult to read but with an adjustment of the font say like this post HERE Its going to be so much easier on the eyeballs
But I really enjoyed reading about *honeydew* and her collection of Pop Art.

I'd probably do the Space for rent separately though, make it a feature post :)

Anyway I do like the Post just would like to see the font changed :)

Junkie Yard Dot Com

Junkie Yard Dot Com

Interesting Banner and Interesting Title for a Blog Site isn't it ? "Junkie Yard" ...but you know what ? its such a what the ? type title for a blog it makes you go on over and have a squizz.

And its a great blog too..with NO Junk - Just some pretty good information and some fun competitions like this one for a Top Spot and or Entrecard Points

So Get over and have a look at Junkie Yard Dot Com

When Adoption Turns to Murder

Guatemala

Just what is it about this place

Yep Guatemala is in the news again..

This time its a more sinister, evil force at work...in the guise of *adoption*

I'm going to touch on this briefly because I Think the more people that blog about this the better, but I urge you after you've done reading my blog post about it to go over Here and Here
And have a really good read of those two blog posts about a little girl named Enna Barreto, adopted 2 year old daughter of Janet and Ramone Barreto..

Just 2 years old and DEAD - Murdered - Her death ruled a Homicide by the Shelby County medical examiner.

One of the Worst Cases..........

Investigators trying to work out if they 5 children adopted were actually in fact STOLEN

But lets all remember Emma is with Jesus now - Preacher says

And that there makes me want to VOMIT - I am a believer in God...I pray....but you know what I dont get how ANYONE Can say this of a two year old who was abused and then murdered

"We are here to remember Enna," Bro. Zemek told them. "It is a bittersweet day - bitter because she is no longer with us; sweet because she is with Jesus."

"We are not here to condemn or to judge anybody today," Zemek observed. "We are here to celebrate the life of a little 2-year-old girl."

Give me a Fucking Break, this is a TWO YEAR OLD Baby. Not really a lot to celebrate now is there ? oh lets see she was ripped from her Original Mother and Father, and then shipped across to a foreign country, where she was stuck among 200 odd animals out the back covered in faces, along side her sibling who was 3 years old and weighed 20 POUNDS - 20 POUNDS For Fucks Sake... thats 9 Kilos ...My 1 Year old weighs 14 Kilos / 30 Pounds......

Oh yeah Enna's little 24 mths on this fucking earth was really something to celebrate , well I guess we could celebrate that she isnt going to end up like her other siblings unable to fucking communicate, starving to death and infected with god knows what...so yeah Maybe her little life taken so tragically is a SWEET RELIEF to the Evil that was going to come her way from her so called Adoptive Parents *Vomit* how can they even be called *parents*

Seriously Guatemalan adoptions are just fucking child trafficking in my opinion....with maybe the few odd *ones* coming out the correct way with papers (wow with papers just like when I got my dog) oh yeah there would be the few that are toeing the line, doing it all above board just to try to keep the heat off...but as more stories tragically erupt like this and more people are aware of the problem, and the country and its officials and its people and the so called *adopters* are all going to start coming down like a pack of cards...

But YOU need to talk about it. YOU need to blog about it. YOU need to report it. If YOU hear anything suspicious, new family with a kid and they hadn't spoken of adopting a child for some time etc....then for goodness sake Speak up about it..

I honestly don't know why people go to another country to get a child, only to turn around and abuse that child and then even murder that child..I Just DON'T Get It......Why ?

Its hard enough to understand any sort of child abuse, I will NEVER understand it, and even to think about it makes me feel sick in my heart and stomach but WHY ? WHY ?

Sick Fuckers

And Enna Angel,

I'm lighting a candle for you.....

Steve Chapmans Adopted daughter Tragically killed

I am in Australia, I don't even know of this person, but my heart goes out to him and his family for the terrible loss of his beautiful adopted youngest daughter.
Tragically taken by the hands of his other (I believe) biological child, a teenage son...and when I say at the hands of I don't not mean by vicious means but rather by a accident involving a 4Wheel drive Or SUV As they are called in the USA

I came across this blog today with the story in and the photo of the family..I was just going to leave a comment but decided to blog about it instead..

In my opinion All Cars should have Mandatory reversing sensors and radios/cds etc should have a sensing switch that when the car is in reverse they switch off....because there isnt much use of having a reversing sensor if the music is blaring loudly out..

I think also that the next step after that should be reversing cameras.

Too many accidents happen like this with people backing out of driveways and not seeing their child.

Ove the past day or two I've also read other blogs and comments on editorials about this horrible death of a child, and heard ridiculous comments like ...'if the car wasn't so big it wouldn't have happend'

Get A Grip People...its not the Car size, its the person behind the wheel..Cars are not lethal on their own, the people using them make them Lethal weapons.

And Yes I am a 4 Wheel Drive (SUV) Car Owner...And YES I have reversing sensors and YES They work !

Again its about Education...Its about Educating your kids.....Its not about blaming a piece of metal, no matter what its configuration...

May Maria Sue Rest In Peace :(

About Yesterdays Blog Post - 15 Annulled Adoptions

Well It appears I may have been celebrating too soon...Its smoke and mirrors as per usual.. Reports made to look like good is being done when in reality its just a token and a smoke screen trying to pacify those that are in arms about illegal adoptions..

Baby Love Child has written a blog post about it...check it out and actually understand whats really going on...

But I still urge everyone to blog about it , It needs to be out there for all those Prospective Adoptive Parents (pap's) to understand what really goes on in these foreign adoptions...

.......and to the pap's do YOU as a ethical, Christian, law abiding citizen want to really change your ways and be a part of something so evil, as , sanctified baby trading/stealing all under the guise of 'adoption' ? Will you sleep at night in 10 years 20 years 30 years down the track when it comes down to the fact that you paid 30 bucks , a x box and a carton of Coke for your 'baby' ?.....And your baby asks you many years down the track (in the eye) how could you do that ??

Does the End Really Justify the Means ??

15 Adoptions ANNULLED - GUATEMALA

15 Adoptions Annulled

Guatemala annuls 15 adoption cases

By RODRIGO ESTRADA – 11 hours ago

GUATEMALA CITY (AP) — Guatemala's attorney general said Wednesday he has annulled 15 pending adoptions to U.S. couples after finding evidence of fraud or other irregularities.

Attorney General Baudilio Portillo suspended all of Guatemala's 2,286 pending adoption cases in early May to investigate them. So far officials have looked into 160 cases. Of those, 145 have been cleared to move forward and 15 have been annulled.

The babies whose cases have been annulled will be put in foster homes until a judge locates their parents. If their parents aren't found, they will be put up for adoption again.

"We believe that, over time, the number of cases with irregularities will grow in the same proportion that we are seeing now with these 15 cases," Jorge Meng, the attorney general's office spokesman, told The Associated Press.

The irregularities were serious enough that the attorney general filed criminal complaints against lawyers, doctors, social workers and birth mothers involved in the 15 cases, Meng said.

Guatemala has been plagued by allegations of adoption fraud, including claims that babies are stolen from their birth parents or even sold by poor birth mothers.

A new law that went into effect in January is aimed at cleaning up the system by creating an independent council to oversee adoptions.

Before the council was created, private lawyers and notaries did everything from recruit pregnant women to obtain U.S. visas for the adopted children. The process was expensive, costing U.S. couples about US$30,000 (euro19,000) for each child.

But it was fast, usually lasting less than six months. That made Guatemala the second largest source of adopted children to U.S. couples, after China.

The new system is expected to be less expensive, but also slower. Adoptive parents will be assigned babies, instead of being able to choose them from a set of pictures, as they did before.

Bureaucratic delays kept the council from being able to process adoptions until just recently, and few new adoption cases have been started under the new law.

So Look Out Skanks cause the Law is coming to get you, and yours.....

No more BUYING Babies for you!!!

Go and adopt an ORPHAN and be a real ethical Parent

How Angry are you...?

Your Inner Child Is Angry

You're not an angry person. But when you don't get your way, watch out. Like a very manipulative kid, you will get what you want. Even if it takes a little kicking and screaming.

How Is Your Inner Child?

Too bloody Right my inner child is angry - she was abandoned

Whats Your Power Sign..

Your Power Element is Fire

Your power color: red Your energy: hot Your season: spring Like a fire, you are full of power and light. A born leader, you easily draw people toward you. You are full of courage and usually up for anything dangerous. You have a huge ego and love to be the center of attention.

What's Your Power Element?

Yup Thats Me :) whats yours :) Errr except for the "You are full of courage and usually up for anything dangerous." I'm a chicken shit!!!

Whats My Slogan ?

Your Slogan Should Be

Jane. What's the Worst that Can Happen?

The Slogan Generator

I was Peeing Myself laughing (see Previous Blog Post of Mine as to why :P ) when I read what my slogan is...Oh the amount of times I have heard that said to me before....

Oh and Just for fun I kept doing it over and over...

Here are some more fun ones : Jane Keeps going and going and going and going

Or how about this little pearler: What stays in Jane Remains In Jane

Or even better : Once you go Jane, You'll Never go back

Or : Do me a favour plug me into Jane

LMAO

So whats yours ? Click the Link Above and Find Out....................

Safe Haven Laws - Baby Dump & Condoms

A very vocal and active activist in the world of adoptee rights has posted about a new bill thats going to go through in Ohio about extending the baby dump/safe haven law from 3 days to 30 days
A person who did just that ie dumped their baby happened to be mentioned in this persons blog post..and an uproar ensued with comments back and forth friends of either side popping in for their heckles risen to give their pov....

I don't know how I feel about baby safe haven laws tbh.

On one hand I feel that it is wrong on so many levels for the baby when he/she grows up...no identity EVER
But then on the other hand to imagine a poor defenseless baby going through god knows what pain when the mother squats gives birth and leaves it to die in a garbage can.

We had a case in Australia of a baby dumped found dead in a handbag in a recycling tip given funeral

And what about *Baby Catherine* dumped last mothers day (07) in a cardboard box freezing to death outside a psychiatric hospital wing...

I Think all of this , safe haven , foster Care, Adoption....its all after the horse has bolted. People need fucking education , People need to learn to get some fucking control...
People seem to throw around getting pregnant and having a baby as nothing, they don't think (yes thats it) THEY DON'T THINK about the fucking consequences of what is going to happen to that baby years down the track.......after they decided to
A) abort it (well nothings going to happend to it, it never got the chance to have a life)
B) abandon it through Safe Haven or not
C) dump it on some other relatives
D) Beat the crap out of it , abuse it, neglect it
E) Do all of D and then have it taken into foster care by the authorities
F) give it up for adoption

These baby's (well the ones not aborted) grow up to be adults, adults in Emotional Pain, Adults confused about who they are,Adults that have difficulties relating to others, Adults with serious issues, adults with violence in their heart, adults that get depression, adults that commit suicide, adults that murder...
And some times its even children or teenagers doing the above
Of course this isn't what happens to ALL of the baby's subjected to B through to F....but Yeah to most baby's who have had one of the things happen to them from B through to F you can bet most had at least ONE issue...................

So why are people just flippantly getting pregnant ? and then not taking responsibility for that baby ? I mean Real fucking responsibility ?

I think its Far to easy to 'divorce' a baby from oneself these days (abortion,abandonment or adoption) just like its too easy to get Divorced and Dissolve a Marriage that a lifelong commitment was made to.

People need to take a LONG HARD LOOK at themselves and say NO I am not going to be that person who is reckless with my body that in turn could end up ruining another little persons life innocent of My good time in the 'moment'

And sure there ARE situations where a TRUE Accident can happen whilst on birth control...but the majority of cases where proper birth control is used will NOT result in a unwanted pregnancy.
Condoms SHOULD Be used for ALL Causal Sex..not only for the issue of unwanted pregnancies but also for the STD Factor...again another thing that people are so flippant about...that it wont happen to them..And sure maybe they WONT get the deadly Aids, Or the other really bad STD"s but what about things like Chlymidia ? Pelvic Inflammatory Disease...all things that come from Unprotected Sex and there are NO Signs that the other person is carrying them..What about Herpes another one that can be passed on from a carrier that has no signs of it..and then guess what you're stuck with it for life..Think about it ...its a disease that rests in your spinal fluid in your spinal cord..Nice hey?

Anyway this post isn't about the ins and outs of STD's its about the fact that people need to take responsibility and get a grip on their sexual libido, or use protection.

Unwanted babies are not like a puppy that you got for christmas and oh no after all we cant really keep it so off it goes to the pound, which in itself is disgusting and people need to take responsibility for that as well !!!, but a baby is SO FAR removed from that situation and yet people are popping out babies and abandoning them all over the place..

BUT WAIT

Its okay though because "I love this baby"

And its okay though because Mr and Mrs Jones really REALLY Want a baby to love and they cant have children of their own...so 'I'm doing them a HUGE favor, Oh actually wait sorry No 'I am giving them a HUGE GIFT''

Come on people GET REAL FFS...its time to stand up, wake up and take responsibility for your actions.

Abortions are not the answer either...

The answer is DON'T get Pregnant in the first place

USE BIRTH CONTROL - USE A CONDOM


*disclaimer - I'm not referring to accidents that happen when using birth control, although people need to ensure that they are using Birth control correctly, and I'm not talking about baby co-coercion where the mother accidentally got pregnant although see point above !, where she wanted to keep the baby but it was coerced away from her / stolen away from her.*

So in reference to the 3 days to 30 days Safe Haven law , well i'm conflicted about it...I'm conflicted about baby safe Haven Laws to start with. Do they just encourage dumping of babies when perhaps a better way WOULD have been found ? Or do they protect a baby that is born from being tossed out with the garbage to die :(

Maybe the extended to 30 days might help the mother to bond with her newborn baby and change her mind from dumping it under Safe Haven, but then again maybe it might make it worse and give those mothers who are past the 3 days and into the no sleep, leaky boobs, raging hormones, screaming baby more of a nudge to abandon the baby than if it had of just been for the 3days......

Why is it so hard....

Does any one ever TRULY give a ratz about these beautiful defenseless NO CHOICE babies ?...All anyone ever fucking does is fight over them like property/objects...

Its just fucking not right.

And my final word is an oldy but a goody

NO GLOVE = NO LOVE

**Oh and as a eta..I would have been a Safe Haven Baby if it had of been around in 1967..dam sure of it...considering my Mother who gave birth to me was prepared to hand me over to a fucking goddam stranger in a fucking goddam BANK if the Adoption Place didn't take me and put me with a Foster Mother until adoption...

A PERFECT example of taking responsibility or rather NOT is my Mother who gave birth to me..She screwed two blokes within the appropriate time of conception of me, at two different parties, because GASP the father of her OTHER Child - MY SISTER had left her/them....so she decided to let her hair down and get some 'lovin' and thoroughly DRUNK ....
Consequently resulting in ME with one of them , that i will NEVER Have history with *cry*

Do I think she is a Whore ? a Slut ? A Harlett ? NO I bloody well don't, and if anyone was to say anything bad about her I'd stand up ready to defend this woman who was ready to dump me in a bank....But she should have got herself some responsibility before she decided to seal my fate for eternity.......

Entrecard New Features

Well I joined up on Entrecard last week.
I'm still not sure what the hell I'm doing !
But anyway I am muddling my way through..

But for posting about Entrecard and one its new features I will get 2000 credits so thats gotta be a good thing! I was going to post about Entrecard anyway once I had figured it all out, but this was more incentive to get my self into gear and actually do it

So here is the great new feature

ADD MULTIPLE BLOGS TO YOUR ACCOUNT

______________________________________________

Today we rolled out a feature everyone has been asking us for since we launched:
the ability to add more than one blog to an account!

Starting today, you can add all your blogs to Entrecard simply by going to your Dashboard and clicking “Linked Blogs” in your Dashboard navigation.

And they have also come up with a great Entrecard to help novices like me work it all out :P heh heh !

eBook

Child Trader

Child Trader

I wonder how long before certain members of the Adoption Triad get their Big Girl Panties in a Wad

I never really got the 'Medical Adoptions' Satire but I find this one, Child Trader hilarious to the Core.

Here's an example of a *trade*

Name: Sophia

Age: 16

Gender: Female

Physical Description: Our daughter is wide in the hips and shoulders and has already been blooming for a good many years, and will be a fine wife and mother if she will take it in a few years, but she’s pretty strong headed.

Medical History: No medical history noted.

Strengths: She is a very strong self-starter and has already excelled in neighborhood leadership.

Weaknesses: She doesn’t like to listen to parental advice and often chooses to miss her scheduled schooling on purpose, with no accounting for where her time has gone.

Agency Comments: This is a fairly normal teenage girl. She is independent, intelligent and is only faulted by an association with children of her equally poor stature in the community. Adoption into a wealthy family would make her ideal. Would clean up nicely.

Desired Trade: We want a similar white female child a couple few years younger. We want 12 to 15 (16 maybe) but our next daughter has to listen to rules. We don’t care if she comes from a poorer background if it means she’ll listen.

Dam Why cant I get smiley's in here anymore

Okay I will be graphic for you...Imagine me Rolling around the floor Bursting out with Laughter so much that I've started dribbling (oh from both ends :P - one comes from age and one comes from childbirth)

Bloggers Unite For Human Rights

I've had my Bloggers Unite for Human Rights Badge 15th May 2008 Badge up for some time now..


Quote

While the words might change from country to country and are sometimes taken for granted, human rights represent one of the universally agreed upon ideas — that all people are born with basic rights and freedoms that include life, liberty, and justice. This year marks the 60th anniversary of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights adopted by the United Nations.

But.....I have been remiss in actually doing a post about something that is close to my heart...although it does not affect me personally because I appear to live in a far freer country that the one that holds its Freedom Statue Of Liberty Flame High in the sky......

But yes Its about the FREEDOM For the Access for ALL Adoptees Worldwide to their birth records.

This should be a mandatory RIGHT. There shouldn't have to be blogs written about it, there shouldn't have to be forums to discuss it, there shouldn't have to be protests about , it Just should be LAW...

What gives you, a non adoptee the right to have your birth certificate and another person who could be exactly like you , same upbringing, same school, same religion, same values, same morals, same professions, same status in life no right to their birth certificate ?

Do you think that is fair ? really honestly deep down all the bullshit aside do you really think that is fair?

No Its not Fair. If a mother / father gave up their child for adoption, then thats their choice, and if they don't want to be found then change their freaking name, move to a different country, do what they like, but that should have no determination on that CHILD'S birth certificate. Why should it ?

The only reasons I can think of a Greed, corruption, guilt and lies, and seriously who can stand up and say that is right ? Only the greedy adoption agencies and adoption lawyers and politicians who want to protect their asses

ALL Adoptees DESERVE To have their Birth Records. If the person who gave them up to doesnt want to know them then fine (however sad that may be) But they as in the adoptee still deserve to have their birth rights..

There are some very active people in this who are trying to do just that - get all adoptees rights returned to have their original birth certificates, online who are listed below...I urge you to get in contact with them and see what you can do to help..

You don't need to be an adoptee either, just someone who believes that everyone is entitled to their original birth certificate

Adoptee Rights

Without A Tribe

Ungrateful Little Bastard

The Daily Bastardette

Bastard Nation Action Alert

BB Churches Funhouse


There are of course many many more but these are definitely some of the most Active Activists on getting ones Original Birth Certificate as what it should have ALWAYS Been - ones given Right.

I hope that I see this happen in the very NEAR Future....

Adopted Jane

A Blog about Me, Adopted Jane, Being adopted and adoption issues affecting adoptees in particular

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Million Blog List

Million Blog List

Are you on here (I know someone who soon will be *Rolls eyes* ;)) So I Am 1609 of 1 Million....

This is a nifty idea, it will be interesting to see how long it takes to reach the 1 million Blogger.....

I only just listed mine and someone else has already listed after me...!

So *my Friends* Be Loud and Proud and GET ON the Million Blog List - Oh and Don't forget your Badge :)

Best Blogging Site....

Well I was going to keep this under wraps, because there is a certain blogger in blogging land that has decided to stalk me, to copy me...and well whilst Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery
It can actually start to get on your tits after a while..
But seens as they seem to have extrapolated everything possible, I might as well blog about one of my fav people in blog land..and there awesome blog with the easiest tips and tricks to make your blog better

Amanda from Blogger Buster Makes the whole world of blogging so much easier to follow and implement..You'll be blogging like a pro in no time if you follow her advice

You just have to have a look at her stuff. Enough said !!!!

Anonymous Posters are Spineless Filth

You know them, the ones that hide behind no name to abuse you...
Recently a friend, as opposed to a foe, said that they like having the option of the open id and other options rather than just a blogger..
So I decided that is why maybe my comments have been on the lower side..and sure enough by opening it up more people started to post comments..
This was a good idea I thought, until the nasty venomous creature erupted spewing venom and I have a pretty good idea who it is because of they way they worded it, and my site meter stats..
I did post a comment or two back to them, telling them only a coward posts behind a Anonymous id, and that what they said didn't even make sense...
And then after a chat with a friend I realized that giving them exposure with their nasty little comment was just giving them the attention that they wanted, and that they would think that what they said had hurt me in some way, because not only was this person a coward but also tactless as they posted in on the Mothers Day post, you know the one that tells how sad I am because my Mother is Dead...
Yep gotta hand it to them they really were doing their utmost to plunge the knife in, and had they made the exact same comment with their real name, with their blog, then yeah it might have hurt.but because they were the coward that they are , it really was refreshingly like water off a ducks back....

So to all of us bloggers out there who get these venomous, hateful Anonymous comments on our blogs, don't let it get you down, let it just slide off you like Teflon and just hit the Delete button

Disclaimer: This does not apply to those who post nice comments who are wanting a little anonymity.

Mothers Day..........

Mothers day is so heartbreaking sad and happy at the same time for me.

My adoptive Mother has died nearly 8 years ago now..gosh that seems so unreal to even say that...I can still hear her, I can still feel her comforting hugs and I can still see her in my mind.
My heart aches that she was not here to see me Marry my wonderful Husband nor was she here to witness (not literally!!!) me giving birth to my beautiful children first a daughter, and then a son....nor was she here to see them grow through the years

My Mother who gave life to me, who wants nothing to do with me, who sits on the other side of the world in misery, not even the pull of her ONLY grandson can pull her out of this deep denial she is in...

And then there is Me, A woman who had her first child at 36 and her second at 40, which for me was completely unbelievably amazing and despite the first time's experience I went back for more.....

So Mothers day is filled with so much sadness of my own Mothers but with so much happiness and delight of my own beautiful children...

Family Faces are magic Mirrors....

Family Faces are magic Mirrors. Looking at people
who belong to us, we see the past, present and future.

Fail Lumet Buckley

How Many Visitors do you get a day ?

I'm just super curious as to what a average blog gets on a daily basis, mines just under 20 recently and I have zero Idea if thats great , good , average or crap LOL

And please even if you just say Hi, please leave a comment :) I'm getting paranoid...don't worry its an adoptee thing :P ;)

RSS Feed Address

I'm fairly internet savvy, honestly I am, but for the life of me I can not find my RSS feed url that is required to give to people...

First person to tell me what it is, how they found it, how I use it, I will link to your Blog...

Thank you in anticipation :)

ETA Is this it http://adoptedjane.blogspot.com/feeds/posts/default?alt=rss

ETA 2 - Thank you Dead Rooster & Serendipity, I have added you both to my Link Page :)
Now to just figure it out from here ;)
xxx

Wow I'm Google Page Ranked Three Out of Ten 3/10

Blah and there was me saying I hate the number 3 ;)
Well I guess I will just have to work even harder to get to page rank 4

For those that are not in the know Google Ranks Pages..Considering I have only been doing this blog since January this year 2008...thats pretty darn good ..... Guess I must be a little liked then :)

I Hate Three...

I have just had an knock on the brain, truly I have, with a very large sledge hammer.

Honest to goodness ! ;) :)

Triad, you all know what that means in Adoption Circles right ? Adoption Triad, the Birth mother (first mother, natural mother whichever is more comfortable for you) The Adoptive Mother and then the Adoptee

Me being the latter.... ;)

Well let tell you about my sledge hammer moment, it suddenly dawned on me, as I read this fantastic blog, which I am keeping secret for the moment, anyway his blogger wrote about something to do with 3 and as I was reading this blog that I was thoroughly enjoying I got a cold shiver and felt quite ill, and thought NO WAY not three, I cant do it , its just not possible....

And bam there it was my sledge hammer moment, on a non adoption related blog, I felt sick thinking about doing something to do with the number 3...and thought of all the times in my life that I have had the same reaction..
I've always hated the number 3, going out with girlfriends was a nightmare, always trying to organize 2 or 4, but inevitable sometimes it would be 3 and no matter how hard I tried I would have the worst night out

I could never have 3 children..

I've always felt sad for those that are a 3 family, the middle child syndrome.. I was part of 3 siblings , but i was the youngest and I was adopted so I had my own unique problems set aside from the fear of 3. But my brother had middle child syndrome.

I could never have a 3some, no way no how...Don't get me wrong I've let the idea drift through as a fantasy like most I am sure, but it only stayed for a fleeting moment because I could never *do* 3.... and anything above that would be considered a orgy which is in no way my scene ever
I'm very happy in my monogamous marriage as is my husband who is no more interested in having a 3some than me, but not because he hates the number 3 ;)

So there it was ..... I hate the number three...and I'm part of a Triad...The Adoption Triad...

With Each side of the triad in pain...and me the adoptee suffering enormous pain and sadness...and belonging to a triad...THREE

I HATE THREE

11,000 Children Need a Home In Florida !!!

There are 11,000 children in Florida who need a home

Thats just Crazy.

Just what is going on down in Florida ?

Question of the Day ?

Question :Whats the best type of flattery?

Answer: Copying of Course

Actually the phrase is Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery...

And "Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery" is attributed to Charles Caleb Colton (1780-1832).

Fascinating stuff huh...Ok hands up who knew that :P ;) :)