Apparently this is a stupid blog !

There is a policy in place here....
But seems people dont mind..because as stated if your comments are abusive I will do a complete post about them..
So Here is one of my most recent comments which was intended for this blog post I did on dimitry Yakolev/Chase Harrison who *died* whilst left / abandoned in a car on a stinking hot day by his adoptive father .....on their way to daycare ! but went to work and forget that Dimitry was in the car and carried on at work .....

Mother of 5 - has decided to let hurl some abuse at me...

This is the most stupid blog I've ever read. I know a woman who's just her third baby at the age of 47, Good luck to her. This sanctimonious idiot is right to talk about her "soapbox". I've seen hundreds of incompetent parents who stay at home with their children all day, and many many juvenile delinquents from dysfunctional homes with a stay-at-home mother. Equally I've seen many well-adjusted and loving families who use day care. Emotive biased language such as "dumped" are just there for sensationalism - Being a good parent has everything to do with parenting skills and loving - for all I know this OP could be one of the moronic stay-at-home mothers who has no idea of what she's doing - it's amazing how these people can butter up their own skills and show such judgement and outrage at others.

Oh....and "Jane" is also anonymous, unless, Jane, you'd care to post your REAL name and address in full. Then and only then can you be held up to scrutiny.

What hypocrisy and stupidity.

Hmm well Jane is My REAL Name thank you kindly, and if you had read the rest of my blog you would have noticed that!
Next who in their right mind publishes their address on the ineternet for all the whackjobs to get a hold of - if you do then you are a fruit cake and should definitely not have children !

And um yes I can see that Dimitry's adoptive parents were doing an excellent job, so good in fact that he is DEAD

I must say I feel flattered that this person opened a blogger account just to comment on my blog.
Glad to see that I'm making a impact

Oh and Motherof5 (if thats your real self!) I'll be watching out for comments from Melbourne, Australia, using a Mac with Safari - for future comments ...and they wont be published - or perhaps I will do a seperate post just for you !

:)

Adoptee Rights and Various Parties

I'm in Australia, I'm not really affiliated, associated, buddies or otherwise with any of the varying factions that are fighting out there for adoptee rights and amongst themselves. Whilst I know many, and choose to associate with some doesn't mean I am in league with them.
But what I do see, is movies, tv series, films etc made that potray adoptees as psychos, offbalance, not mentally stable and so forth..
What I have observed over the past year between some of these various factions is beyond my comprehension of how they do understand that is just supporting the view that is out there about adoptees.
I have recently read some blogs, since the Philly Adoptees rights demonstration and the nasty language used from varying people about other people is unbelievable. To actually write such nasty words and to belittle others in a demeaning way, OTHER adoptees, on a public blog for all the people who might be watching and reading various blogs is truly amazing.

No matter what people are about, whether they clash with someone Else's personality, whether they downright despite another person, if there is a common goal, IE getting open records for adoptees in America, then surely the battles can be put down and everyone strive for the common good.
Throwing around vile insults, and gutter language at people , trying to humiliate others , taking others to task, being mean, embellishing the truth, exaggerating what another is doing, and basically just being hurtful, isn't going to make anyone in any position of power , be it legislators, media etc take anyone seriously.
All it's going to do is cement in their mind that ALL Adoptees are stark raving mad....

I feel dismayed that instead of putting a positive spin on whatever was achieved in Philly this year, there are those that take the opportunity to disparage. Whilst I agree that the event needs to be reported from varying sides, perhaps care could be taken to be factual rather than putting personal opinions into it.
I feel even more dismayed to see people then vilely attacking and abusing those that have chosen to present a different side to what they observed happening for all those that did not attend.

I wish that everyone would put aside their insecurities, grow the hell up and join together for the common good of getting adoptees their rights the same as every other person in America and NOT have situations like what happened to this poor lady who wanted to obtain a drivers Licence and was treated like a piece of muck on someones shoe!

Do you think that's possible ?

The Coerced removal Of Elijah

If you have been following my blog you know I have been writing about Forced Adoptions, coercion in adoption, BULLYING in adoption...why is it that we have all kinds of laws about bullying in our school systems and protection in place for those bullied (if its a good school!) but yet we are allowing women to be bullied into giving up their child ?
Does that make sense to you ?

This is a story, another heartbreaking story of a child taken from his mother and lost into a system called adoption. This is where I get angry at adoption. This is where I do scream at those adoptive parents and agency workers and so on that dare to make out that there is NOTHING Wrong with adoption that it is all flowers and hearts...

I'm going to direct you to another Blog that has the full story and the understanding of this story from an American Law POV and also a native Indian which Mary and Elijah are...

If you would kindly go to this fantastic blog post about Mary and her son Elijah - Please Click Here

Mary had intent to file for rescinding of the adoption within the 3 day limit (how anyone thinks that 3 days is fair to ANYONE is beyond me !) after being coerced into adoption in the first place.
But due to more tactics Mary missed the deadline to file - Sound Familiar to my last story about coercion ???

Mary sent me a email asking me to please tell her story..how could I not, how could anyone not tell Mary and Elijah's story :( It needs to be told, people in media NEED TO TAKE NOTICE of whats going on.. they are the ones with the power, how about a bit of pressure being sent back to all these courts making these horrendous decisions. Mary wasn't deemed a unfit mother, NO , just some technicality upheld the Agency's right to terminate Mary's parental rights and remove Elijah from the only mother he knew and his elder sister.

WHY IS THIS HAPPENING ???

When there are SO MANY babies and children out there of abuse and who are orphans, why are adoptive parents TAKING children that are still wanted by their Biological parents ???

Perhaps they do not know ? I don't know , but if they do not know , then they need to LOBBY and FIGHT for ETHICAL Adoptions and not child stealing via Coercion

My heart breaks for Mary and for Elijah :( and I hope someone somewhere learns of this case and does something RIGHT About it - for a change

God Bless Mary and Elijah, may you be reunited soon...........

Adoption is Like a Pet Fair

YEY !

I have just received this article into my inbox from my google alerts on adoption and I am beyond the pale on this one...

Sex and the City Star Willie Garson Adopts a son.

This is a 8 year old boy and my first thoughts were perhaps this is *ok* perhaps this child was a victim of abuse and being removed from that hell would be better..

BUT No, no such luck, this child was at an adoption fair, unable to be cared for by his biological mother anymore.

Garson says he will certainly allow Nathan's biological mother to visit him, saying, "For many reasons, she couldn't care for him, but I will never let her not see him."

The 45-year-old actor originally wanted to adopt a 3-year-old before meeting Nathan at an adoption fair.

Of the adoption process, Garson says, "It's like a pet fair -- as horrifying as you can imagine. It was really hard. The 16-year-old fat ugly kid, who has probably been to thirty of these, knows he's not going to get adopted. Like everything else, cute wins. I couldn't believe my kid was actually available for adoption. He's so cute and sweet."

What is it with Celebs and Adoption ? Are they just lonely or what ? And this 8 year old boy does he now get a name change ? So for 8 years hes's been known as one name and then gets given another ?

I found the comments in this article to be disparaging, and as much as I agree that for older children it probably is like a pet fair, I think that a actor endorsing that *cute wins* publicly is a real slam in the gut for all those un adopted children left wallowing in orphanages.

Seriously views on adoption need to change and Quick............

Coercion

Definition as per Dictionary Reference.Com

co⋅er⋅cion

noun

1. the act of coercing; use of force or intimidation to obtain compliance.

2. force or the power to use force in gaining compliance, as by a government or police force.

AND

Legal Dictionary

Main Entry: co·er·cion
Pronunciation: kO-'&r-zh&n, -sh&n
Function: noun

: the use of express or implied threats of violence or reprisal (as discharge from employment) or other intimidating behavior that puts a person in immediate fear of the consequences in order to compel that person to act against his or her will; also : the defense that one acted under coercion

—see also DEFENSE, DURESS —compare UNDUE INFLUENCE

Merriam-Webster's Dictionary of Law, © 1996 Merriam-Webster, Inc.
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Sounds awful doesn't it. Not something to be proud of doing, not something that YOU would want to happen to you over something dear to your heart, important to you etc.

Certainly not a predicament you would want to be in if you were young and pregnant, or even older and pregnant but with money troubles, or emotional issues, now would it ?

But yet its continually happening. Still today ! I mean we all know it happened during the *old*days , what was known as the BSE ( Baby Scoop Era) - it was rife during this time with many parents of their daughters actually helping with the coercion of giving up their daughters child, their grandchild, because the *shame* of it was far worse than actually trying to help their daughter to keep her child.

I gave you all a story here PLEASE CLICK THIS LINK about a 25 year old who was tricked and coerced into the surrender of her child, and despite being within the time limit of changing her mind she was deceived into not signing those papers, and now has the fight of her life on her hands to get back her child.

And remember these babies, are a (yep you guessed it) A Gift From God - but not for the coerced Mother - oh NO - the baby was always intended as a gift for someone else, they just lost their way (*rolls eyes*)



How do people live with themselves ? How do people KNOW that a woman wants to keep her child, but yet they continue to coerce, force,manipulate, deceive, lie to get that child away from her. How do they live with themselves knowing that she didn't willingly surrender her child ?

Do you know how they do it ? how they live with themselves ? Because they do not put the importance on family, on heritage, that they should. They only think of themselves and they see that the end justifies the means, BUT The end does NOT justify the means, The end is not justified at all. especially when a woman wants to keep her child, there should be no arguing about it , no discussion about it, if a mother wants to keep her child , that is the END - Period....

I'd really like to know how agencies, churches , adoptive parents can even dispute that ? do they think that they know the woman, the mother better than she knows her own feelings ? Do they suddenly get gifted with the ability to see in a crystal ball ?

NO they do not. They only have their own agendas.

To anyone out there who has to coerce another human being into doing something against their wishes, their will, I ask you this do you think that is the right way to treat another human being ? to adopting parents , I ask this of you - do you think that when your adopted child that was coerced away from his/her mother finds out that you had a part of that , that they will thank you for that ? when they know the full story that their mother wanted them and loved them, ad had it not been for your part in coercion that they would have remained with their mother....
(And make no mistake the truth always comes out , they will find out)

I am working on another horrific story of coercion and deceit to remove a little boy from his mother when he was 18months old... Stay tuned - their story coming soon...