Saturday, October 24, 2009

Adoption Disruption and People on the Self Publicity Trail

I completely blame Anita Tedaldi.....

You can read about her HERE and HERE and, well just google her name and you will find a lot more because she is very vocal

A little adopted boy who is named only as "angryboy" by his adoptive mother is up for grabs on the internet : you can read the horror story HERE and also my comments which I will also post here

I wrote the following comment there:

Jane says:

After reading the response to Mirah and other posters from the Adoptive mother – I put it to the readers that the 8 year old adopted boy learnt “anger” from his adoptive mother.
Your tone and attitude to Mirah and other posters was immediate anger.

The anger that is coming from you shows through louder than you obviously can see.

You are the one coming across as angry.

If you do not want the criticism then I will give you the same advice I gave to Anita Tedaldi after her piece on the “Termination of her adopted child” – DON’T WRITE ABOUT IT
Pretty simple really isn’t it.

These are the type of children who go on to be mass murderers, serial rapists , always in trouble with the law and so on because people like YOU and Anita, take a child (thinking you are so wonderful and that *GOD* instructed you to ADOPT) that you fail to realize your own limitations , thus ending in serious problems all round and creating in SOME Cases a complete Monster, because you failed to push through the issues, and thus once again abandoning the child

Let me put it to ALL of the readers out there a different way…one that you can all relate to (probably)

Think back to when you were in a relationship, someone you loved with all your heart , maybe this was the one even and that person ended that relationship……

How did you feel ???

Rejected ? Abandoned ? Low Self Esteem ?

In the majority of cases this is how people who are the dumped one in the relationship feel, some go on binges , drinking , excessive eating/not eating , partying hard, being a recluse – any number of these things can and do happen , because they feel rejected, hurt, unloved , unwanted…

Why then is it SO HARD For people to wrap their head around how an adopted child feels?
And when that adopted child is dumped TWICE how much more damaging that is to them..

People who disrupt adoptions do not deserve the privilege to adopt a child.



I also took my comment over to HERE which is where I first found about this little boy named "angryboy" by his adoptive mother.

Sadly my comment seemed to get lost, and the focus was turned to me saying that this is how some monsters (ie rapists /murderers) are created.

There is no denying it, adoption has created many monsters, and I have added a further comment which I hope will be posted :

I hope that my point is clarified, as I did say in SOME Cases a complete monster is created , and no matter which way you look at it, adopted or non adopted , people who rape and kill are monsters.

These people ARE Monsters and they are adopted

http://www.geocities.com/Wellesley/9950/adoption_serialkillers.html

http://www.amfor.net/killers/

People like Anita Tedaldi and this other person who is putting her “angryboy” (UGH) up for adoption on the internet are the type of people who help create the above type monsters.

Its bad enough being given up for adoption once, but twice ? :(

I can only hope that these two little boys abandoned TWICE don’t turn out to be like the above monsters


The point I really wanted the focus on was how I compared a breakup of a relationship to the feelings that adoptees suffer through continuously.

I wanted non adopted people who don't understand adoptees to have something to relate to.

I hope that came through.

6 comments:

carol said...

Wow, SAD, that's all I have to say.

another adoptee said...

I had once looked into the list of adoptee murderers... and oddly enough..most of them are adoptee light.. meaning they still had a biological parent or grandparent involved. Most being adopted by thier step parent.. but its nice that adoptees.. what ever the case hit the list!

Jane said...

Hmm not sure I agree there !

Steve said...

Jane;

I was impressed with your "rejected" comment on one of the other blogs, and so had to come over and see who you were. I just wanted to say that it was well put...really helped me...and I feel like I can feel how it feels ( so to speak)...

Maybe there ought to be some sort of penalty written into the process for rejecting a child like that. After all...when an adult is rejected by that special someone, they were part of the initial start of the relationship. I am serious.

Pickel said...

I firmly believe that no one should be allowed to adopt more than a two (or three, if they must) child sibling group in a five year span and this is what happened here. IMO, they adopted more than they could handle and one little guy fell by the wayside. As much as they probably did try they missed things and it just stinks.

Joan M Wheeler said...

How very sad for this boy. Tragic parents. people are heartless.

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